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Here in the UK car bumper stickers can occasionally be seen declaring "A Dog is for life - not just for Christmas' stickers circulated by The Dog Trust over the last forty years. I can readily go along with the sentiment expressed there.

But reading online the BBC website an article (21 December 2019) by Annabel Rackham, it seems to me this basic concept needs now to be widened to include people. The Christmas season, I read, is the time of year when singles yearn for the company and companionship and the comfort of snuggling up to someone during the dark, chill evenings of winter. The piece comes under the heading "Cuffing Season : when a partner is just for Christmas". The article includes the sentence, "And then swiftly dispose of them before their trip to Ibiza in the spring. Brutal." I had not heard this expression before, so read Annabel's piece with interest and new insight into current thinking of people younger than me. And in so doing was saddened. I am not suggesting Annabel is promoting this concept of a short-term, one-off, I'll-trade-you-in-come-spring, brand of friendship, but for anyone of any age, this approach falls way short of the ideal.

And just because the ideal may appear unattainable is no reason to abandon it, or substitute it for something inferior.

Life and living is all about relationships. How we as individuals get along with other people. All people. One at a time or in big heaps. Relationships of all kinds, some deep, some shallower, but all count and contribute to making each one of us a rounded and complete person. Whether a Millennial or not, it is part of our DNA to want and need another person. It is the way we are made.

There are and always have been individuals who have by personal and deliberate choice - for whatever reason - have chosen to live life without a close relationship with another, but for most of us being part of a pair is appealing and needed. Nothing wrong with that. Everything is right.

Someone has written Newly weds become oldyweds, and oldyweds are the reasons families work.

Love never gives up - whatever the season - it lasts the year through; Christmas, New Year, spring, into autumn back again into winter.

You even get plastic bags for life.

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