Wonder of wonders! For the first time this morning on one of the myriad of media couplets that decorate the TV with pretty talking heads with SFA to say ... a woman made a statement which made me LISTEN and CELEBRATE an exceptional day. For once, one of those dolled up females said she felt women should stop being so hard on each other! YES! She didn't wade in with her personal opinion about women breast feeding children and how long they should continue.
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Thank Christ! I thought.
Then when her made up male cohort mentioned some other 'hot' topic issue that women were 'talking about' she made light of that one too! She must have had her wheaties spiked or something and I'm at home cheering! It wasn't just that she said it, it was the relaxed way she put it across.
I've often thought about how many small minded women are out there invading living rooms talking about this bit of tripe and that bit of trash all the while taking women down a peg or twenty while they shine in the limelight of controlled airwaves. I'm reasonably convinced this parade of promulgation is having an impact amongst viewers who consume a steady diet of this proselytizing from the media pulpit. How society manifests its behavior has much to do with the messages they're fed. Look at the change in attitudes about smoking. As a recent quitter I'm happy to report anybody can smoke in my home if that's what they want to do. My neighbour used to judge me unfavourably when I still smoked but didn't become my champion when I quit. Not that I expected her to.
How often have you heard women call one another unflattering names usually based on their sexual activities? I often cringe when they do because, quite frankly, it makes all women look like airheads with foul mouths who don't know how to insult with finesse. I think people have forgotten what a whore is! They're so lazy they've had to shorten it to a third of Santa's laugh! Save this crap for Christmas will ya? Wrap up every Ho you might utter, throw it in a Pandora's box, tie it with a pretty bow and toss it on top of the cheerfully burning Yule log. You'll feel better about yourself if you do.
And why would anyone give a damn about what a women is wearing? I admire those who will don a two piece no matter what shape their body is in. GOOD ON YA!
Now I'm not talking about Joan Rivers here who's shtick everyone knows about, besides her focus is the rich and famous anyhow. I'm bringing up the countless women on talk shows who either are hosts or guests who justify their existence by attacking every other women they've never known and quite often for the most ridiculous reasons! Then there's women who go off on rants because their no-account deadbeat morally corrupt male has been unfaithful! Instead of giving him a good swift kick and tossing him out with the other garbage cluttering up their lives, they blame the "other" woman! What kind of BS is that?
Sad to say there are only a paltry few class acts out there who keep their own council on what they think is right or wrong when it comes to how women behave when it's none of their damn business. I remember watching, for the first time, a Canadian talk show hosted by a woman and only minutes in she was stating that she believed obese children should be removed from their homes! She said she didn't think those mothers were skilled enough to cope with the rigours of parenting. Excuse me?? I was so incensed I turned off the TV and sent off a pithy e-mail of complaint stating I would no longer be watching that show. I also made mention about how the subject was handled with more intelligence by an American TV show which features a collage of women co-hosts who usually spend all their time talking over one another. Not much gender respect happening there either.
I've witnessed, over the years, how eager women are to attack each other while being 'tactful' and 'demure' in their dealings with males. Why? Are they afraid they'll be bopped in the nose? I don't think so. I think it's their lack of courage to take on what society deems as a stronger being. Poppycock! A whole lot of men have been coddled all of their lives by ... guess who ... THEIR MOTHER! I remember many years ago when my son made a disparaging comment about the morals of a girl he was seeing. I shut him down immediately! I wasn't going to have any son of mine take cheap shots at someone he'd been sharing the sheets with. Hopefully it discouraged him from doing it out of my earshot as well.
While watching "The Help" for the third time I thought again about how women are bullies. They don't use the same tactics males do. Their lessons are learned in the same arena as the boys but they do the damage in a far different way. Their expendable BFFs, dress codes, cliques, malicious unsubstantiated gossip, their rules of behaviour, imaginary insults, and ruthless agendas are all about power and control.
I was not one of those cliques in school but I do remember a group of them coming after me when I was 'vulnerable'. I don't behave predictably when I'm someone's target. I don't fold, I don't cry, I don't suffer in silence. When five of these elite girls singled me out in the gym when I was fifteen and asked me why I was getting married in that falsely naive way they knew so well, I took the wind out of their sails by saying, "Im pregnant! Why else would I be leaving school and getting married? Isn't that what your friend Sheila did? " They evaporated in a cloud of whispers. I had no use for them but never was critical of their need to travel in groups. They had my sympathy instead.
So women of the world ... do me a favour .. stop putting yourself on a pedestal of all that is righteous because your fall from grace is just a teeter away. Instead, walk with dignity and celebrate all the exceptional talents women possess while holding up their half of the world.
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