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Update: I know it's been awhile, let me catch you up. Back in Nov. my son Jr. And his family moved to Cleveland looking for work. At the time I agreed with the move. We were hard hit by this "it's not a depression recession". 
He had to do what a man has to do to take care of his family, and I'm proud of him for that. He didn't make any excuses, he didn't try to pawn his responsibility off on me, and he didn't run out. He did good in the face of adversity. 
He moved his family in with his aunt and her daughter. He found a job as a Jr analyst at a large bank, he was even working on his Masters. everything was fine until his wife left for the Army, she had enlisted when they couldn't find jobs, against my advice. The Army is no place to raise a family. My wife and I were young lovers when we were in the Army and we saw up close what it does to families.
I gave my son this advice: the divorce rate in the US is 50%, the divorce rate for Blacks is 70%, the divorce rate for Black women with a degree is 80%, (my daughter-in-law has a degree in Computer Science), and probably higher for military families were the wife is providing the income, and that's not including the time you have to spend separated. Even with all off those odds stacked against you all you have to do to stay married is say "I still want to be in it", (I already to him that their will be plenty of times you want to get a divorce, always take the next time:).
After she left he was trying to work 40+hrs per week, and going to school, that didn't leave a lot of time for Keith III, (heretofore referred to as K3). He had to leave K3 with his auntie for the majority of the time. That's when he began to notice how much her daughter misbehaved, and K3 was starting to pick up a lot of bad habits and whining and crying a lot. It got to be unbearable. K3 missed his Mom, his room, his toys, his life.
Eventually, ended up bringing K3 back here to live with us. We put him back in his preschool class with his friends and his teacher. In his familiar surroundings he began to behave and act like his old self. My sister-in-law was insulted, but what could he do? He did what was best for his son, would any father do any less?
So, that's where I've been, taking care of K3. I consider it an honor and a privilege that he would trust us so much. I count it a blessing and a reward. When my kids where that age I missed most of it. I was overseas for most of it, and when i was stateside I worked nights and weekends. So I really appreciated having this time with my grandson.


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