Lit.Org - a community for readers and writers Advanced Search
 




Average Rating
7

(2 votes)


RatingRated by
7Unknown
7Unknown

You must login to vote

Is it possible to "Know" another online? I have heard time and again the comment, usually following some kind of judgment of one person of another online: "You know nothing about me." My own interpretation of this annoyance at the audacity of a person to dare to "judge" another is that the person being "judged" finds it hard to deal with the idea that they have been rumbled. They fall into the trap that they believe that text (the primary medium online, along with emoticons) is a way to screen out knowledge of them rather than act as a gateway. 
 
Text online is the virtual equivalent of "deed" or "action" in the real world. We can learn kuch from people by their actions. True it isnt a 100% objective science. But one can say that a person who is regularly generous in life may well have a generosity of spirit. We aren't being too arrogant calling them a generous person. Of course they may be "faking it inside", but we can let our intuition be our guide, break our silence and "risk" the judgement. And it is not too hard to read fakery into people's text either. Very few are experts at that kind of masque. 
 
Several people I have chatted to recently uphold what they believe is their sovereign right to be "not known" online or only known by those they "choose to reveal themselves to". They seem to believe that getting "Known" by other people online involves selectively revealing certain facts about their private lives to the chosen few. And not to others. Then they can be more "known". They get very angry if people make an assessment of them online by reading their online deeds, i.e. their "text, their use of emoticons, their pauses, the nuances of what they write and how they write it, and drawing any conclusions from it. "You know nothing about me." LOL. 
 
In the real world, we read books and there is much (often accurate) we can derive about the author from the way they write. It's a practised skill. Of course such judgement is seen as annoying and audacious by those who think themselves to be perfect online mysteries, like anonymous gypsies travelling from place to place. Often the "you CAN'T and DON'T know me" people online are actually the most superficial and waste their own energy on cliche and role playing in a weak attempt to "cover themselves up". It can be quite sadly comical. 
 
As a writer of many years, I find that forming impressions of an author based on their text is quite a natural thing. Of course it is not always accurate. Online, the repeated behaviours of some people through their text and typing makes it almost impossible NOT to know aspects of their real selves. There is of course a valid fear of being stereotyped and demonised. That is an online phenomenon that we all experience at one time or another when our text/deed is misread. But that experience doesn't contradict the fact that, with careful textual observation and some intuition, with a calm mind one can learn much about another from what they type, particularly over time. 
 
It is all the sadder in writers rooms online to see the "you can't know me" people wasting energy ineffectively building a crumbling wall around themselves when that energy could be used to improve their writing. Here's a judgement: Quite a few writers online waste that energy and it keeps them just one tantalising notch below a level of quality where they could be professionally publishable. 
 
A pity really. How can we know such people? We know them, partially through their text which are their online deeds. Let that text sing out with originality and zest, with energy and passion!


Related Items

Comments

The following comments are for "To know you?"
by cats3000

Cool
Hey!, really cool read. It's amazing how I sporadically find people who write as I think. This is because I don't write that much but think, ponder, as an introspective person.

This reading was smooth, captivating and easy-to-grasp. But I get kind of a notion that this wants to go on, that it hasn't finished, that there is more. My suggestion is that you should concentrate in a more harder argument to lure readers to a more divine prose.

Thanks for writing!

( Posted by: tkal317 [Member] On: June 14, 2003 )

Something I agree with
You are, of course, absolutely right. The only privacy we have is that which others let us have. When we post out comments to online forums and the like, we are opening ourselves up.
That in itself needn't be a problem. In order to make any progress socially, and in any context, one needs to interact; get to know people.

A very interesting topic.

To comment on the writing: I agree with the previous comment that the piece doesn't feel quite finished. You seemed to jump tracks quite suddenly in the last couple of paragraphs; I think your conclusion could definitely have benefited by being a slightly longer, and also if you'd woven in more hints to it in the body of the text.

Score 7/10.

( Posted by: Spudley [Member] On: June 15, 2003 )





Add Your Comment

You Must be a member to post comments and ratings. If you are NOT already a member, signup now it only takes a few seconds!

All Fields are required

Commenting Guidelines:
  • All comments must be about the writing. Non-related comments will be deleted.
  • Flaming, derogatory or messages attacking other members well be deleted.
  • Adult/Sexual comments or messages will be deleted.
  • All subjects MUST be PG. No cursing in subjects.
  • All comments must follow the sites posting guidelines.
The purpose of commenting on Lit.Org is to help writers improve their writing. Please post constructive feedback to help the author improve their work.


Username:
Password:
Subject:
Comment:





Login:
Password: