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Earth Kitt died on Christmas Day. Harold Pinter, playwrite, died on Christmas Eve. The obituaries for these high profile people have been written, published and probably read too by those who knew them, or at the least knew of them. And dozens of others, too.

Whenever I read such tributes, or hear these spoken, the same question comes to mind: ‘I wonder whether they knew, whilst still in life, the esteem, and affection and admiration in which they were held by other people?’ Whether the recently departed were ranked among the great and the glorious, or among the lesser ranks in the social strata, the practice of giving expression to those feelings and opinions after death seems to me not only common, but also pointless.

I have known of cases whether people arrive at a funeral of family members with whom there had been no contact during the latter years of their life. Such a situation can be very good for floral tributes. In an attempt to assuage guilt pangs, send a display of flowers along to the funeral parlour.

Several years ago I heard a recording of a lecture given by Dr Murray Banks, in which he quoted a poem by Lee M Hodges, that makes sound sense. Two stanzas capture and express eloquently the one, main point being made by the poet:-

Closed eyes cannot see the white roses,
Cold hands can’t hold them, you know,
Breath that is stilled cannot gather
the odours that sweet from them blow.
Death, with a peace beyond dreaming,
It’s children of earth doth endow;
Life is the time we can help them,
So give them the flowers now!

Here are the struggles and striving,
Here are the cares and the tears;
Now is the time to be smoothing
The frowns and the furrows and fears.
What to closed eyes are kind sayings?
What to hushed heart is deep vow?
Naught can avail after parting,
So give them the flowers now!

This early in a new year, there may well be someone within our own circle to whom a verbal, and/or floral, tribute would go a very long way to making the new year really new, whilst they are yet able to see and hear and benefit from it. ‘Give them the flowers now!’

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The following comments are for "Obituary for the Living"
by sercombe

Flowers for the Living;-)
My husband brings me flowers all the time, I keep fresh flowers on my alter everyday, I send flowers to friends and loved ones and they to me all the time...the flower thing is NOW indeed!
In this life and every life, living in the moment fully and say it now, don't wait till later;-)

Life is beautiful, death is transition, and it too is beautiful for leading into NEW LIFE...

FASCINATING article;-)


( Posted by: TheRealKarmaTseringLhamo [Member] On: February 1, 2009 )

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