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Commentary: More Ns in the news August 25, 2002 Portland, Or.   A Man In Love With His Own Image The memorial stretches out in front of Ward Weaver's property in Oregon City. Flowers, notes and stuffed teddy bears adorn the cyclone fence topped with barbed wire that the FBI has erected around the property. Mourners line the rode and traffic slowly creeps by, some yelling epitaphs. Yesterday, little Miranda was found in the shed out back. Today, Ashley was found stuffed in a barrel buried beneath the concrete slab Ward poured behind his house five months ago -- just like his Dad did before him.   This awful story began in January when little Ashley Pond disappeared on her way to grade school. It grew to national attention by the time her friend Miranda Gaddis disappeared in the same fashion. Just now, the sordid details are coming out in the news. Both girls had a lot to overcome in their short lives, having been sexually abused by fathers and step fathers. Ashley spent a lot of time at the Weaver home staying overnight with Weaver's daughter. One year ago Ashley accused Weaver of sexually abusing her. There were no charges and Ashley never spent another night there.   The sordid details of the Weaver family line stretch back four generations. Weaver's father sits on California death row for rape and murder of hitchhikers. One he buried under a concrete slab in his back yard, which he turned into a deck. There is a string of unsolved murders along the long haul route he once drove. His Mother was a woman who harbored an intense hatred of men. To quote the Oregonian, "…Dorothy, wielding a butcher knife, once declared that she wanted to cut off all their penises." She had a profound influence over her son.   The case finally broke some eight months later after Ward allegedly raped his nineteen year old son's girlfriend. His son, Francis has also run afoul of the law on a number of occasions. But why did it take so long to solve?   Those close to Weaver had been in contact with authorities from the beginning and again when he poured the concrete slab, supposedly for a hot tub. Weaver had a long list of offenses and jail time for rapes and abuse of his former wives. He was a suspect from early on, "Weaver publicly proclaimed his innocence, even as he drew attention to himself with claims he was a suspect."   As the details concerning Weaver have unfolded, they scream out to those of us in the know, "N, N, N!" N is the, far from endearing, term those of us who are in the know use to describe a Narcissist or one who falls within the Narcissistic Personality Disorder or NPD as it is listed in the DSM IV, the manual for mental health professionals. NPD is an insidious disorder which many feel is at the core of many other disorders and mental illnesses, but little known to the general public. Most simply think, self centered or in love with themselves. But it stretches so far beyond that. They are, As Dr. Sam Vaknin would say, infatuated with their image as it would be reflected in a pool of water. They are incapable of love as we know it. Theirs is a murky world. They share a long list of amazingly similar traits and they are all but impossible to cure or even manage. It's amazing how similar they are all across the world. Many mental health professionals come away from their contact with them absolutely enraged.   Our prisons are full of diagnosed NPDs. We are seeing more and more of them in the news recently; CEO's being led off in handcuffs, politicians, religious leaders, sports stars and murderers.   Those of us who have been victimized by Ns and found our way to sites like

http://www.suite101.com/discussions.cfm/npd

continue to be amazed by the similarities. Close contact with an N can be very traumatic, with many victims suffering from a form of PTSD, Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome. Some don't survive! Ns are very sharp, most being of above average intelligence. They have spent their whole lives developing their deceptive personas. Sadly, most of them are but vaguely aware of their conditions, if at all. N's are hard to spot through casual contact but when you get emotionally close to one -- watch out! It seems that one of the things Ns share in common is their propensity to give themselves away. You just need to learn their cryptic ways of communicating.  Now the FBI is coming under intense heat for dragging their feet. If the authorities had been trained in methods of spotting and dealing with Ns, this case could have been broken long ago. The writing was on the wall. I have no doubt that if Ward Weaver and his Father before him and his Mother before him had received professional diagnosis', we would have found NPD at the core of their respective pathologies, not unlike Keith Jesperson the Happy Face Killer.   It's too bad that so many had to suffer for so long because no one could recognize the kind of disordered creature they were dealing with.    -30-  Ward Weaver has been in the news more since this article was published in the Portland Tribune. Future updates will be forthcoming.  Chuck Fasst

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Chuck Fasst


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