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Some people do not handle unrequited love or that kind of rejection too well. And while others see waiting around for someone, no matter how long that happens to be, as an act of nobility, some might see that type of waiting around and lovesickness as just that, a sickness which leads one to wonder if sexual addiction is the ultimate cure.
And in the Gabriel Garcia Marquez book turned movie, ‘Love in the time of Cholera’ the character, Florentino Arisas endured the above mentioned sufferings when he is first turned away by his ‘love at first sight’ interest, Fermina Daza and spends the rest of his life yearning and waiting for her.
Through a continuous exchange of letters and few secret meetings, Florentino is ecstatic as he obviously thinks he is in love with Fermina. But is so struck by the pains of heartbreak when she tells him they cannot be, that he, Florentino is literally turned into a whimpering, depressed, unable to cope, unfocused on his work at the Telegraph Office, broken young man.
It’s enough to make one almost take pity on his mother who is witnessing him endure all this heartbreak he is unable to handle. And might make someone else want to say: ‘Get a hold of yourself, man! You are not the only human being who has ever suffered a heartbreak.’
Trying to cope:
His youthful life goes on without his Fermina and when he, Florentino, learns of her marriage to a doctor, he still insists on waiting it out for her. All the while hoping that Fermina’s husband, the doctor Urbino dies before Fermina does, so he could have his chance with her. Sounds rather chilling, but Florentino is a persistent character when it comes to the matter of his love for Fermina.
And although he vows to remain a virgin for Fermina, he happens across a sudden and unexpected sexual encounter one night. One that would lead him to a path of his own sexual revolution as he begins to keep a record of his sexual deeds. Six hundred and fifty five of them, in the time of Cholera.
Is Florentino’s Sexual Addiction the cure?
And as Florentino continues this path of sexual encounter s, one after another, he even tells his mother he believes his pain from the Fermina heartbreak is being cured. Something that leads one to wonder if indeed sexual addiction is the cure for the unrequited?
Different people have their own interpretations of this story. Some say it depicts love as a disease/obsession, whereas some say spending one’s entire life waiting around for an opportunity to have a chance with the love interest without actually giving his/her heart to anyone else, sexual addiction or not, is a noble act.
And on a personal note, one might wonder if sexual addiction acts as a cure for the heartbroken as he/she waits with uncertainty for the love he/she could not have in his/her youth.
Interpretations may vary.
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