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Do you ever remember being lied to? Tell your story and I'll tell you mine...OR have you ever been the liar instead of the liee (However you spell it) Most of us have been in love at one time or another and wanted to believe our lover told the truth at all times...I can say one thing from experience...If the word money comes up...GET OUTA DODGE!!!

( I had a plan...I was going to meet the man I was going to marry by the time I was 21  
get engaged and be married in a year...have all my kids before I was thirty because I thought that was too old...I met the Greek when I was 20...when he asked me out I told him of my plan then told him if he wasn't in for that game plan forget it...cause I wasn't wasting my time on a relationship that wasn't going anywhere...well, I guess he thought playing the game was worth it just to get into my pants...He even bought me a cheap engagement ring...He was my first...and my husband was my second and last...
I found out he was dating my best friend too and that hurt.....So after 2 1/2 years of his cheating and no wedding bells ...I tossed him aside...It was getting late in the plan so I just married the next guy who asked me...One more year and I would have been labeled An Old Maid (25)...that was even worse than marrying the wrong man....OR SO I THOUGHT !)

( Here's the funny part...yesterday I saw something about body language on tv and I do believe I had a book on that subject years ago (or at least read one......so I figured I'd go on line and check out a few things..How can you tell if someone is lying to you was one...this is where I started laughing...BLINKING was one of the signs...well, the Greek used to blink so hard when he was around me that he looked like one of those bobble head dolls...I thought he was having a spasm...I asked several of his friends and even my best friend if they noticed him doing it when he was around them... Everyone said no...I am feeling guilty all these years thinking it was my fault for making him so nervous...Here it was his own lying self...When I told my son...We had a good laugh...I think I want to get a book on body language just for the heck of it...)

Seven Common Signs of Lying ( THIS PART I GOT ON THE NET FOR YOUR INFORMATION)


1


No eye contact. Generally, if someone is lying they will not look you in the eye, at least during a certain part of the conversation. Normally, people make eye contact for at least half of a conversation, so anything less than this could be suspicious. One caveat: there are some people who will take great pains to make eye contact with you even if they're lying, simply to make you think they're not.
You don't need a lie detector test to find out if someone's lying to you --just check out these seven signs of lying.


2


Change in voice. A change in the pitch of a person's tone, or a lot of stammering (umm, ah), or throat clearing could indicate a lie.


3


Unusual body language. If a person taps their foot a lot, fidgets with their hands, raises their shoulders, turns away from you or brings their hand to their face (to touch their chin or nose, etc.) -- in other words, if they act nervous or uncomfortable -- it could mean they're telling a lie. Also watch out for blushing (or becoming pale) and increased blinking.


4


Something sounds fishy. Making statements that contradict each other, are inconsistent or don't sound quite right are usually part of a lie.


5


Overly defensive. Sometimes when a person is lying they will become extremely defensive, refusing to answer any questions and even accusing you of lying. This may mean they have something to hide.


6


Changes subject easily. If someone is lying and you change the subject, chances are high that they'll go right along with it. A person telling the truth, however, will likely ask why you changed the subject and want to go back to it.


7


Humor or sarcasm. A guilty person will often try to change the subject using humor or sarcasm.

Of course, no one behavior can tell for sure whether or not someone is telling the truth or lying. While you should trust your instinct, if you're not sure it's best to try to get some evidence to back up your accusation. Rather than relying on a specific behavior, catching a liar in the act is best done by watching their normal behaviors. When those behaviors suddenly change, that's when a lie has likely been told.



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Kacee Huggs


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The following comments are for "Ahh the plans of mice, men, and liars Thread"
by Nitz Kitty

liar, liar
some lies I have known:

“We’re sorry for the inconvenience.”- Customer- quote unquote-Care, a lie- if not an actual myth- in and of itself.
“It’s the most wonderful time of the year.”- Hokey old Christmas song.
“Admitting you have a problem is the hardest part.”- Alcoholics Anonymous.
“I love you, baby.”- My ex.
“Hardly feel a thing.”- My tattooist.
“Impartiality.”- Police force.
“The truth will set you free.”- Captain Platitude.
“Happily ever after.”- Walt Disney.
“This is going to hurt me more than it’s going to hurt you.”- Stepfather.

and some lies I have perpetrated:

“It was like that when I got here.”
“Pleased to meet you.”
“No offence.”
“Your arse does not look big in that dress.”
“How fascinating.”
“I swear I haven’t been drinking.”
“We’re big in England.”
“I’m fine.”
“Of course I know what I’m doing.”
“I’m a published poet.”

there's more, will return, this is fun.

( Posted by: AuldMiseryGuts [Member] On: October 4, 2007 )

"the check is in the mail"
Speaking of ex-husband, old boyfriends, etc.,

1.) "it's not about you, it's about me"

2.) "You're the only one I have ever loved"

3.) "Nothing is the matter"

4.) "I am not lying"

5.) "I love you"

--------------------

That's enough for now...thinking about these kind of past bad memories and ex-whatnots leaves me feeling nauseous that I ever allowed myself to be abused and used in this way.

( Posted by: TheRealKarmaTseringLhamo [Member] On: October 4, 2007 )

"lies and the lying liars that tell them"
Here's some good ones...

"No baby..You totally had that rash before we met"

"Madam I wouldn't rape you if you were the last woman on Earth"

"I don't care if youre black, white, brown, green, or purple" (Ive met a lot of people..and not one of those suckers has been green or purple)

"Jesus Loves You" (of course he only loves me)

( Posted by: kilgoretrout [Member] On: October 4, 2007 )

tora lora lora LIE!
Some great big fat lies

“There are plenty of jobs out there.”
“Good things come to those who wait.”
“School days are the happiest days of your life.”
“It’s for your own good.”

Some greater bigger fatter lies

“Everybody is equal in the eyes of the law.” And “Innocent until proven guilty.”- Ha!
“Time is a great healer.”- Ha-ha!
“It is better to have loved and lost…”- Ha-ha and thrice Ha! Tennyson, you lying sack of…!

( Posted by: AuldMiseryGuts [Member] On: October 4, 2007 )

Liar?
Here are some lies I am guilty of.

"No, I wasn't planning on eating that."
"It's not you... it's me."
"I'm fine."
"No, I don't want to talk about it."
"I'm so happy for you."
"Yes! I'll be there! Go on ahead without me."
"I'll call you tomorrow."
"No, it's not a bad dye job. I was born premature and the overexposure to O2 permanently damaged my hair follicles. It was very traumatic for me."
"No, I don't want to talk about it."
"You're not a bitch, you're just colorful."
"...of course I wasn't faking it!"

Lies I have been gullible enough to believe:

"I love you forever and always."
"Will you marry me?"
"Everything you tell me is in strictest confidence."
"You can do whatever you put your mind to."
"Only you can prevent forest fires."
"Meghan, don't cross your eyes at me! Your face could stick like that!"
"Faith and fear cannot reside in the same house."
"I just want to snuggle."
"I will never intentionally hurt you."

Of course, a lot of lies I've told/heard were already taken. Le pout.

Shannon's and Kilgoretrout's were especially funny!

Oh, and it's darn good to see YOU again, Kacee!!!

( Posted by: chinadoll [Member] On: October 4, 2007 )

Ah, lying
I'm a creative writer and in marketing; if it weren't for lying, I'd be broke and heart-broken.

You know the difference between lying and fiction?

Paper.

OK. Let's see... Lies I've told:

"I have no idea how that got there."
"I'm afraid of loving you too much."
"That's fine; you'll be happier with him."
"It's OK with me if we just cuddle."
"That's the best [insert food dish] I've ever had."
"You look nothing like your mother."
"I was going to tell you about it..."
"The money doesn't matter, as long as you like the work."

Lies I've been told:

"You're better than him. I don't deserve you."
"IRS audits are random."
"The repair will last for at least 30,000 miles."
"You're overqualified."
"I think you're very handsome. You're just not my type." [first half being the lie]
"This should clear it right up."
"If you play with it too much, it will fall off."

( Posted by: andyhavens [Member] On: October 4, 2007 )

lies and painful truths

********************************
Lies I've told my wife -

"No, I didn't pass gas..."

"I guess they think I'm attractive, but we're just friends..."

"No, I never had sex with her..."

"I'll be working late, so don't wait up..."

"yes, it's a bar - but it's not a topless bar..."

"I got her phone number, but I didn't call her..."

"She was sort of attractive, but she wasn't my type"

"I only did it because I was drunk..."

********************************
Lies I've been told by my wife -

"I only did it because I was drunk, and I thought it was you... well, I wished it was you... are you sure it wasn't you? In fact, where the F*CK Were YOU?!?!"

"Yes, I paid the bills..."

"No, I didn't overdraw the checking account..."

"Of course I changed his diaper..."

"My parents were kind and loving..."

"I WANT to be a homemaker..."

"The television is broken; the washer is broken too..."

"I've never done this before..."

"It hurts too much, so stop..."

********************************
Truths that I should not have shared with my wife -

"I promise I won't [knowingly] have sex with anyone in your immediate family..."

"My last girlfriend didn't have a gag reflex"

********************************

Truths that my wife should not have shared with me -

"You're big, but you're not the biggest. I had one boyfriend who was bigger. I didn't really like sex with him; he used to hurt me every time. He wanted to have sex for a long time, ALL THE TIME. 45 minutes into it, I'd starting thinking about how tired I was. Sometimes, I'd pass out. I guess it was more of a blackout really. when he was done, I'd be dripping with sweat and sore all over. MY thighs and my back and shoulders would ache. I don't know what I saw in him. I didn't even really like him. All we ever did was get fast food and have sex. I wonder what he saw in me... I think his first name was @@@@@@. I never really knew his last name..."

"Well I do have a gag reflex, but you needn't concern yourself with it..."

( Posted by: rajengineer [Member] On: October 4, 2007 )

Novice?
I have no vice:

I do not drink
I do not swear
I do not steal
I do not cheat
I do not envy
I do not lie!

( Posted by: ivordavies [Member] On: October 5, 2007 )

Liar's Thread
How about this one..."This has a LIFETIME warranty ." Who's lifetime? I like the LIMITED LIFETIME warranty even better...What are they gonna do...take a hit out on the owner?

I really didn't think this thread was going to take off like this...Wow! this is overwhelming and wonderful...

Hope it didn't bring too many hurts to the surface for that was not the purpose of this thread...It really was to inform people what to look for if they think someone is lying to them...

Just like me with the blinking fiance...I now find that kind of funny...What a stinker...hehehe...

I appreciate everyones participation in this thread and will answer all in time...Thanks again lit family...Kacee

( Posted by: nitz kitty [Member] On: October 5, 2007 )

Lucie on Liar's Thread
Lucie,

I always appreciate you input...and I didn't blink!!!
Sorry to hear of your losses at work...I know that would bum me out...

Here is one we used to hear a lot when I was younger from sales people ( you usually can't find anyone to help you now a days) I love this, "That dress is you!"

I find myself looking at people to see if they are blinking or touching their faces....President Clinton touched his nose after saying , "I did not have sex with that woman." Kacee

( Posted by: nitz kitty [Member] On: October 5, 2007 )

Shannon on Liars Thread
Shannon,
Thanks for your input ...I think we have all had the ,"I love you." lie thrown at us....and maybe we have said it ourselves ...either to get something from someone or not to hurt someone's feelings...Time sometimes will heal all wounds...if you stop picking the scabs...Thanks again...Kacee

( Posted by: nitz kitty [Member] On: October 5, 2007 )

Lena on Liars Thread
Lena,
I appreciate your comments....You are so knowledgeable ...and yes I understand how you feel ...You know what really disgusts me? Those two liars saw me naked....Kacee

( Posted by: nitz kitty [Member] On: October 5, 2007 )

F.R.s views on liars thread
F.R,
Thanks for your contribution to this thread...Isn't it strange how we get sucked into lies if the person we think we love tells them to us? Then later want to kick ourselves and them in the butt...

No matter who is in the White House...the government will always lie to us...Thanks again...Kacee

( Posted by: nitz kitty [Member] On: October 5, 2007 )

Terence on liars thread
Terence,

I got a hoot about the rash thing and I thank you for your input...I must say something about the Jesus thing...Jesus does love everyone...they ALL don't love Him back and if you were the only person EVER on this earth...He would have died on the cross for you...I feel that you were hurt at one time by someone who professed to be a Christian.. ( Me too, many times...but I never blamed God...We all have to make chioces...right or wrong).You can tell them by their fruits (the things they say and do for others and not asking for anything in return)...Thanks again...Kacee

( Posted by: Nitz kitty [Member] On: October 5, 2007 )

Megan on lies
Megan,

So happy to see you on lit once again...and that's no lie...Thanks for your comment...

We have all fallen for that lovey dovey lie stuff...It is hard to believe MR. Right when he is telling the truth...

We aren't always happy for the person who got something we wanted...Not so nice but I'm not always so nice...and I'll have to admit that or I'd be lying...thanks again...Kacee

( Posted by: nitz kitty [Member] On: October 5, 2007 )

Andy's veiw on liars thread
Andy,

You had some good ones there...I have to fill in the food one...TUNA NOODLE CASSEROLE...

I like the overqualified one...I remember going for a job in a department store behind the Fashion jewerly counter...and I had worked with high end jewerly and got commission ...every one said they liked me and I was called back 4 times...but in the end I was not hired...the place went belly up in a few years anyway... na-na-na-na-na-na...Thanks...Kacee

( Posted by: Nitz kitty [Member] On: October 5, 2007 )

THE REALLY BIG LIES women tell....
Before I get to lies I have told, first there is this really 'wierd lie' that has been repeated to me more than once:

1.)"You are my Yoko Ono"
said to me during my highschool years by my first official musician boyfriend.

2.)"You are my Yoko Ono"
said to me during my in my 20s college years after my first divorce, by every single musician guy date I ever dated!

3.) "You are my Yoko Ono"
said to me when I was in my early 40s by a guy I was dating in Los Angeles, he was in the movie industry, played drums, soundtrack musician.




Now, here some lies I have repeated a few million times:

1.) "That was great!" [late teen years]

2.) "That was great!" [my 20s]

3.) "That was great!" [my 30s]

4.) "That was great!" [my 40s]

And by the grace of God, I finally got lucky, met and married my current gorgeous young husband, Joseph, and I never had to say that lie again. Yeah, all you cynics out there, that is NO LIE~




But before Joseph, there was SUPER ONE VERY BIG LIE that I told repeatedly told to some:

1.) OOOOOOOH! OOOOOOH! OOOOOOH! OOOOH! AHHHahh...yes! YES! YES! YES! Oh, baby, oh baby, I'm....I'mmmm...C~~~INGingINGing! OoOOO000ooooaaah! OoOOO000ooooaaah!....*sigh*


(Kacee, I hope this wasn't too naughty for your thread)


( Posted by: TheRealKarmaTseringLhamo [Member] On: October 5, 2007 )

Robert on Liars thread.
Robert,

I must be getting tired because I'm starting to misspell words...Thanks for your input...

You do have some really good ones...I like the I didn't pass gas one...we always blamed the dog or kitty...Thanks again...Kacee

( Posted by: nitz kitty [Member] On: October 5, 2007 )

Ivor on liar's thread
Ivor,

WHAT A GUY ...MORE PEOPLE SHOULD BE MORE LIKE YOU...You are so funny...You must have touched your nose, blinked your eyeballs out, turned around three times and touched the ground...I have a son who can not lie without smiling...He never got away with anything...Thanks for your comment...Kacee

( Posted by: Nitz kitty [Member] On: October 5, 2007 )

family lie

“If you tell me the truth, I promise won’t get angry.”- Nana, God be good to her. I got wise to this one pretty quick, and, if I ever did tell her the truth, I made sure I put as much distance as I could between myself and her cane first!

“If there’s anything we can do for you…”- My ever charming Uncle, only ever said from the safety of the other side of the Atlantic Ocean. Figures.

“If you don’t want to do this, just say, nobody will think any less of you.”- From various relatives, usually at funerals. Never did believe this one for a second.

“This will always be your home.”- Nope. Sigh.

“The invisible man with the hairy back come and took it while I was asleep.”- Babby brother when I asked him where my fiddle had wandered off to. He was six at the time, broken it, and cunningly concealed it in the coal shed. This is my favourite. He has Asperger’s syndrome and so is the worst liar in the whole world, entirely unable to distinguish between a believable half-truth and an outlandish fantasy. There’s poetry in that!

“You are going to hell.”- Aunt Carmel. When I was a kid I used to believe this one and it frighten the life out of me. I’ve grown up since then. Even if she hasn’t.

“Of course I fixed it. Yes, I fixed it properly. No, I don’t need your help.”- Grandfather, shortly before the head gasket come off the Ford Major.

( Posted by: AuldMiseryGuts [Member] On: October 5, 2007 )

Naughty, naughty Lena
Lena,

I think we've all done that a time or two...I wasn't vocal in my love making...but I lied in other ways...Since guys are so macho about how they perform ...we have to stroke them somehow...Some guys called me Bernardine in my teens...Like I was their dream gal or something...Yeah right! I got Kim Novak and Doris Day in my teens and twenties...I think it had to do with my hairstyles...What does that Yoko Ono thing mean? Were they telling you that you were their one true love cause that's what she turned out to be to John Lennon...but even then ..He cheated...Kacee

( Posted by: Nitz Kitty [Member] On: October 5, 2007 )

Family of liars
Shannon,

Sometimes family members can be the worst liars...I remember my mom asking dad if he loved her...his answer was always the same..."I'm here ain't I?" He could have meant that as a yes because I don't think he could actually say the words...but to me it only meant he was there...not that he even wanted to be...

Oh, here's some good ones my mom told me...I was born to marry a rich man and have servants...also if I ran through the weeds I would scratch my legs up and then I couldn't be a movie star...My mom always thought I was going to be a Shirley Temple.....Mother had me believing that I was beautiful...and I would tell all the kids in the neighborhood I was going to be a movie star...I think they were being overly harsh when they told me "You're Pretty.......Ugly...after all I was only 6 years old...but I guess it was truer than what my mom told me...

Years later mom told me, "You made your bed now you have to lie in it.."...Thanks for your comment...Kacee

( Posted by: Nitz kitty [Member] On: October 5, 2007 )

Paying for Lies?
I really cannot tell a lie
however really much I try.
The truth abounds in all I say
no matter how it makes me pay.

I met a girl who was the same
she said "I only like your name,
your face and stature can't you see
will only win a girl like me"

I told her truthfully that she
would suffer for her honesty.
For now instead of half a crown
a tanner'd get her panties down.

I really cannot tell a lie
however really much I try.
The truth abounds in all I say
no matter what it makes me pay.

( Posted by: ivordavies [Member] On: October 5, 2007 )

dear nitz kitty,
i'm not sure what i enjoyed more: your interesting post or the fasinating thread below it.

sincerely,

j.jd.

( Posted by: johnjohndoe [Member] On: October 5, 2007 )

Ivor and jjd on liars thread
Ok ...Ivor you've convinced me...Thanks for the poem...Kacee

jjd...I love how this thread has taken off...Thanks for your wonderful comment and rating...Wait a minute...I can't be sure you weren't blinking when you wrote thatcomment....
hehehe...Just kidding...Kacee

( Posted by: nitz kitty [Member] On: October 5, 2007 )

Pen on lies
Pen,

One person's truth is another's lie...Wise man that...

Some people don't blink or blush because they believe their own lies.

I'm always happy...PPPAAAAH

THANKS FOR THE COMMENTS ...Kacee

( Posted by: nitz kitty [Member] On: October 6, 2007 )

Insurance
All those lies,

the reasons I can not become an insurance salesman.

Is a bull-shitter the same thing as a liar?

BW

( Posted by: BWOz [Member] On: October 7, 2007 )

Damn Lies
There are Lies, Damn Lies and Statistics,
Benjamin Disraeli pointed out.
And stat's support the damn lies
that most politicians shout.

But stat's some say are really
just the 'truth' a different way.
Like a girl who says she's sweet sixteen
but doesn't say which 'weigh'.

So lies and truth are intertwined
and can't be kept apart.
For it isn't always sensible
to say what's in your heart.

So you have to learn to lie a bit,
throw honesty away.
For Lies and Damn statistics
will forever win the day!

( Posted by: ivordavies [Member] On: October 7, 2007 )

BWOz and the Bros
BWOz,

How about Lawyers and Used car sales men...Their middle name starts with LIAR...Thanks for the comment...Kacee

Ivor and Eric,

Thanks for the comments and poetry on Lies...Kacee

( Posted by: nitz kitty [Member] On: October 8, 2007 )

Liars all
Was thinking, oddly enough, about this thread off and on all week.

Maybe the worst lies I am guilty of are not the ones I speak, but the truths I bite back on.

When a person calls me six to eight times a day, wanting to see me when I have no desire to see him, am I lying when I don't tell him to leave me the hell alone like every fiber in my body is screaming?

When someone tries to hold my hand and I stiffen like a twenty-four hour corpse, which is the bigger lie - that I say, "No, I'm fine," or that I don't say, "STOP TOUCHING ME!!!"

In lying to others, I'm also lying to myself. Or at least telling myself that it's very valid concerns and heebie-jeebies aren't as important as the other person's desires.

And ever since I was old enough to read and write and determine the difference between lie and truth, I've thought it was funny that the word 'believe' has 'lie' written right at its center.

Anyway. I'm just rambling. Going to read poetry now.

( Posted by: chinadoll [Member] On: October 16, 2007 )

Lucie and Meghan on lies
Lucie,
I feel as long as the pic is of you ....You are not lying...My avatar is from 06 and I'm wearing a wig....when I say it's my hair...I paid for it and it's mine...why do I wear wigs? Because I don't want to color my hair every 4-6 weeks and I can wear a different style and color any time I want...I'M LAZY!!! AND CHEAP!!!

Meghan ,
Lies of omittance...I'm guilty of that too...I think it's because we don't want to hurt someone's feelings..in doing that we give them hope where there is none...better to hurt them once and let it go....DOESN'T WORK FOR STALKERS...
I remember this guy I know I wrote about him before ...the guy with the sweaty hands...He creeped me out...Well, he wanted me to go for a ride with him in an antique car his family owned...I told him he had to promise not to touch me...As it happened ...the car broke down and I had to wait with the car (so no one would steal it) until he called a tow truck... I don't think I had to tell him he was never going to see me again...Kacee

( Posted by: nitz kitty [Member] On: October 16, 2007 )





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