A few days ago, a friend sent me a forward entitled "Are We Friends or What?". Because of my shortsightedness I am unable to reproduce it here, but perhaps you have recieved and read it before. If not, it is a list of small proverbs about friends. In the version I recieved, several of these proverbs were in boldface, most of which highlighted the difference between true life-long friends and passing acquaintences. They say things like "many people pass through your heart, but only a friend leaves foot prints." Also that "no friend can stand to leave another friend in pain." It contiues in this manner and then encourages the reader to forward it to all of his friends. Many of the thing listed brought painful memories of times when someone I had called my friend had hurt me terribly.
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That really hit home. What it says about true friends is very
accurate, and I would say vey complete. If you notice, there is no way to
tell if someone is or isn't one of those great friends until they do
something to prove that they are not (or no longer wish to be) your friend. It is sad but true that almost all of the people with whom we are aquainted and even some of the people we call our friends can forsake us in a moment and never
feel more than slightly remorseful; sometimes even those we love the most
can forsake us, presumably for the benefit of all. This means something very
simple: pain comes with living the life of a friendly person.
Before you begin to think that I'm blotting out the sun with this
rant, realize that it is actually a challenge. Because this pain accompanies the life of an agreeable person, and because we can only control our own
behavior, it is a challenge to each individual to search themselves and be honest with the people they call friends. Don't lead a causual friend to believe that you would give your life for them, and when you do find one of those rare friends for whom you would risk anything, let them know.
Being honest with others in this respect implies an even more difficult
type of honesty: honesty with ourselves. This is one of the hardest things in
life, because you must know yourself before you can judge your honesty with
yourself, and know yourself is not as simple as it seems. It is not a goal
to be attained, but a journey to be made throughout our entire lives.
"You have lied to me, my dear Morpheous, and I have ended our little game; I wonder if I fear the truth more than your lies?"