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life's journey over
wisdom of maturity
misleading visage

life's vessel aging
bodily functions failing
dignity stolen

life's journey anulled
reasons for living expired
death's release wanted



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The following comments are for "death's release"
by ivordavies

Dignity
Lilia,

My wife is a carer for the elderly, just recently an elderly lady we both liked died with dignity. Unfortunately there have recently been a couple of very proud old gentlemen who felt that they had lost theirs, and very quickly passed away. Both by ceasing to eat and quite deliberately timing their own departure.

In one case it was the onset on incontinence that triggered this. There are very few people who can see inside the 'appearance' and understand that people are indeeed still themselves and have led useful and intesting lives. With the increase in elderly care a lot of people are being attracted to this job who I would not give house space to. Not always the youngsters either. They seem to want to do as little as possible, knowing that their clients are not in a position to complain.

Care companies also, see this as a money making venture and fit their clients around their convienience, sometimes treating the clients awfully. Breakfast calls at 11am followed by dinner calls at 12. Morning care late, leaving clients waiting til miday to even be aided to get up, toilet and dress etc.

Their are a few people who work within this industry who really care and see people for what they are.. not bank notes!

What did I have in mind when I wrote this? .... I was sick to the stomache of the way our aging population is being treated. I was also wondering at what point it is worth continuing with the physical life when dignity is gone.

As a society a lot of people scream about us not having the right to take away life, while people are being kept alive on feeding tubes with no quality of life, just to keep bank notes rolling in to the tills.

I never hear anybody screaming about us keeping people alive against god's will, just for profit. It is only the animal kingdom that seems to have earned the right to a dignified death.

It seems to me that after a long, useful and dignified life, that this form of ending completly obliterates a whole lifetimes experiences for the individual. I truly believe that this damage has to be rectified after passing away before the individual can again return to a normal useful existence in the spiritual realms.

Sorry Lilia, I bet you wished you never asked the question now!

Ivor

( Posted by: ivordavies [Member] On: June 6, 2005 )

Ivor, I am glad Lilia asked...
So I got some more treats of your writing. Perhaps a poetic story....capturing their feelings and yours.

THis is a heart wrenching picture with your comment entwined Ivor. So much like you to be soft hearted and so genuinely caring. We share alot of similar qualities.

Nice to see you my friend,
Darlene

( Posted by: Dareva [Member] On: June 6, 2005 )

Ivor's Aged Haikus
Very much enjoyed the Haiku, and then your comment was poetry as well.
With-in the past few years I have buried two dear 'maiden' aunts, forgotten and resented by most familywho were busy with their own lives... but I was amazed at who had the balls to show up at the reading of the wills.
Nearly 49, I have watched my friends' parents and my parents' friends fall victim to age. Mine are holding their own, 80 and 81. Pop is a bit senior with his memory, and sad, since he had been a CIA spy in finanaces- very cool, and now, he can't seem to remember details of anything. I think mom's holding out so she can have a few years of freedom. They just had their 58th wedding anniversary. They bicker and scratch, but 58 years is alot of life together. God, bless 'em.
Sorry to go on so, but you touched my heart, again. God bless the old people-
Elizabeth

( Posted by: emaks [Member] On: June 6, 2005 )

Ramblings and thanks
Dar,
Thanks for the response, when writing this I was very aware of the caring atitude shared by most of the writers on this site and felt I was expressing opinions shared in numerous comments.

Elizabeth,

58 years together... nowadays 58 weeks is a record! Even when care is present it is still sad to see things like memory failing. We all joke about it and know it affects most of us, but to me it is deadly serious and I have difficulty in coming to terms with this 'winding down' of our faculties. Possibly because I believe we do not change on passing and have to 'recover' as I stated earlier.

On a more positive note I have 'spoken' to people who have recovered from this trauma and are fully enjoying their transition into the higher realms.

Another situation, aptly named by a British TV programme called 'One foot in the grave' is people who are almost 'cabage like' living in care homes giving 'automatic' responses and who appear to have lost all senses. Again I am going to be very controvertial about this... my experience in this regard has shown that when these people pass on they sometimes have advanced in knowledge and grown in spirit!

They have in fact been living 'with one foot in the grave' and the physical body being kept alive while they spend their time mainly in higher realms.

How did I get onto this? Your story shows how much you care, your parents story shows how responsible people can make life work for them..... 58 years and still going, can anybody on site better that!

Eric,

'Maybe only the good die young…… the rest of us have to serve the full sentence…'

or possibly 'life's a bitch and then you're dead'

I suppose sometimes it feels like that, but along the way we have some fun and it pays to remember that....

Your words remind us that there are questions to every answer, and then more questions.....

I just have to remember a man is only as old as the woman he feels! and in saying that also say that we still feel those who we have lost.....

Ivor

( Posted by: ivordavies [Member] On: June 7, 2005 )

death's release
My word Ivor, this piece took me completely by surprise. I know you love to rhyme but you've done an excellent job here with this poem.

For me it's a very serious poem and one which is very sad.

You've described my Grandfather in this piece. He is a man who has never retired from working on the farm up until last year when he turned 88. He now spends his days in front of a fire watching TV

Age is certainly the greatest thief of them all and an inevitable one. Still, at least I know my Grandfather's not in pain.

Thank you
Emlyn

( Posted by: Emlyn [Member] On: June 8, 2005 )

Stolen by Age
Sorry just returned and found your comment, yes I love to rhyme and to pick fun, and to make light of serious issues....

but sometimes I like to tell it just as it is....

'Age is certainly the greatest thief of them all '

yes, sadly in more ways than one,


Ivor

( Posted by: ivordavies [Member] On: July 15, 2005 )





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