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Here's a piece of my soul,

I was just writing because my boyfriend is gone and I feel really lonely. I don't know why but I've cried alot since he left. Eventhough he always flirts with every girl he meets and looks at naughty pictures and writes to his old exes more than me, I still love him. Can anyone relate? I feel super lonely. But sometimes I even feel lonely when he's watching tv and sitting away from me and gets upset when i talk. That frustrates me too. He left me for two weeks to go get ready for the military. He's served our country and I'm so proud of him but I do so want a piece of his heart. He called yesterday and talked for ten minutes but sometimes I still feel a void or a distance between me and him. Can anyone give me any advice on what i could do or change about me that would help him to love me more? I don't want to have to keep asking him if he loves me, I truly want to know and I think he does too. Thanks for your input!!



Mona Lisa


The following comments are for "A piece of my soul for you to consume!!!"
by cutiepieus2024

Well, I don't know what advice I could give but I can understand your feelings, CutiePie. I wouldn't change yourself though. Perhaps it is a difficult time for him now too? He may need space. Just let him know how you feel and how much you miss him?? Writing helps...sometimes.

( Posted by: Smithy [Member] On: May 11, 2005 )

uncle ogg
'He flirts with every girl he meets and looks at naughty pictures.' is the phrase that makes me think, hmmm - this guy, whoever he is, needs to grow up a bit. Obviously he's an adult since he's in the military, but he still sounds immature to me. I don't think he's ready for relationships that aren't notches on his bedpost or stories to share with his buddies to prove his manhood. The only change I would advise is to decide whether or not he is any longer a part of your life. Have a look around, find a guy who wants to talk, not watch tv.

take care
Paul the Ogg

( Posted by: Ogg [Member] On: May 11, 2005 )

Yes he does sound quite immature and not ready to settle down with you. Sorry but sometimes when asking for advice you will get it, it may hurt but in the long run, always listen with an open mind and think on things.
You question yourself about his loving you. That is the first sign of a bit of an unbalanced relationship.
I am 47 years old and I have been around the block several times. My daughers also who are 24 and 26,,,thier friends,,,,etc. I have so much experience with all types of relationships. It boils down to this and try to remember this ok?
As cliche as it is, "Actions speak louder than words". When you love someone you tell them with lots of things, not only with words. So study your relationship and feel it out, think on it.
You seem young,,,but never lose hope.

Take good care, glad I saw this.....

My best wishes to you,

( Posted by: Dareva [Member] On: May 11, 2005 )

ask yourself
You seem like a smart person.
Write down on a piece of paper the things he does that upset you. Then write down the things you have to offer that he notices and those he does not notice. Once you have the list, you will have your answer. According to the list you have said, you must: expose yourself and display yourself in compromising positions. If you have trouble with that then you will never achieve the results you are looking for. Also you must look different and act different if you want his attention. When you want closeness, you must opt for space and when you are with him, you should act as if you are not there. These are the facts, these are his rules. Can you live with them? If so, Change your hair color and style, Have your face done, get a camera and take a picture of yourself in a compromising position and send it to him. This is the advice you have been looking for. If you can't do it or think it is sick, then you can not meet the needs he has made so clear. He is clearly looking for another and you must be another to find what you are looking for. Unfortunately, as another, once you meet him, you no longer fit the profile.
Now look at your list. Do you have something to offer? You must close your eyes and then look for the man you want to be with. Clearly your eyes have been robbing you of the happiness you deserve because your eyes lie to your heart and tell it that this beautiful man is what you need and you imagine happiness and love where there is none. If you went by what you heard and felt only, you would clearly have absolutely nothing.
If you want your happiness, don't look to him. You simply can not have the piece of his heart you are looking for. You are confusing desire with love. Take it from me, what you are looking for is only a day away, your just not looking in the right place. Try one of the dating sites, you might feel better right away because you may find someone to talk to who shares your interests. Once you realize that what you are looking for in him, can only be found in someone else, and that someone else is at this moment waiting desperately for you, will you truly find your happiness. www.americansingles worked for me.

( Posted by: Fasthinker [Member] On: May 11, 2005 )

cutiepie, not the end of the world

You have to fill the void, for one. Go out! Meet people, go out with your girlfriends, meet other guys...don't sleep with them because when you are greiving over someone it makes it worse.

Distract yourself, don't wait by the phone or the mailbox!!!!!!!!!

Write, shop, read, re-arrange your furniture, paint your bedroom, don't stay inside with your awful thoughts crying over him. Put him out of your mind--replace all those thoughts about him with other ex's and girls and shit. Picture him sitting on a toilet doing #2 see how attractive that will seem.

Don't write everyday, don't be too available, show him you have a life too. Build your own life, it's hard to do, but possible. This is the only time I will suggest a makeover, but nothing extreme. Get your hair cut, maybe colored slightly, your nails done, buys some clothes...take long walks, anything to MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER.


( Posted by: macbeth [Member] On: May 11, 2005 )

macbeth specks wisdom
Girl, I feel your pain, maybe different, but laura,is a wise chick, listen to her, her words are true, sweet wisdom....


( Posted by: Robinbird [Member] On: May 11, 2005 )

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