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Observations of an Outsider
Regarding Love

Walking down the corridors of BHS, we see just about everything from the social boundaries, intense academic demands, and so much more. But there is one thing that I find to be the most important out of all of those things is the love that the majority of BHS shares with one another. Thatís right- relationships and love is what brings the students together to share those special moments, success, and make things more special than what they already are.

When I think of love, I think of people who are happy with themselves and somebody else; however, thereís always a part of me that doesnít trust the entire controversial meaning of love, because of all of the horrible stories of how love hurts, people donít really care, and so much more. I think, is it really love, or is it meaningless lust one person has for another?

But two major questions that Iíve been facing are: How do you know whether or not itís true love or lust, and what are the keys to a successful relationship? Iíve realized, over time, you cannot make a remark about love for another person. You do not know what situation they are in or how they really feel, and by saying something degrading about a relationship that you are not in, immediately puts you in the danger zone, which may cost you a friendship, or make an enemy you had no intention in making. Make sure not to do that, because youíre playing with fire and youíll be burned.

Now, a relationship is what keeps everyone going, and thereís always an unwritten rulebook to how everything in life is done, especially intimate relationships, because you could be dating someone who overanalyzes everything you say and do, or someone who pays very, very close attention.

The Four Keys for the Locks of a Successful Relationship

First and foremost, you need to get to know the person that you are interested in dating. But how are you going to do that? Through communication! Communication is the absolute key to a successful relationship because that is where it all starts. Without talking to another person, there is not a possibility of starting a relationship.

By getting to know someone, you need to show an interest in getting to know the person, or else youíre dead weight and have no chance. Go up to them and start up a conversation. Ask about something popular, like music, hobbies, and so much more. Be open to their differences and look interested. Looking uninterested makes a bad impression, and I can assure you that you would have ruined your chances. The more you and your friend talk, the better chance there is for a relationship to begin. However, not everything works out. After you get to know a person, you may feel that he or she isnít the one for you. Get to know the person and then form an opinion.

Youíre in a relationship, happier than you have been for the last few months, and then you start thinking of a future with your loved one. Everything stops dead in its tracks. My advice is not to come up with preposterous thoughts at such a young age, because it will eventually hurt you in the end. Go day by day. You might scare your significant other and that would cause even more problems than what are needed.

Relying on one person is never a good thing. Relying on your significant other one hundred percent will not work out with your friends at all, because eventually, theyíll feel excluded and unwanted by you. Soon enough, your relationship may not work; the two of you break up, and youíre in need of those friends you pushed away. Well, more likely than not, those friends arenít going to be there for you because theyíll feel as if they are on the rebound. Personally, if I was left behind while a friend of mine was in a relationship, I would be shocked that someone would come back to me, because I feel that Iím better than the person theyíre dating only because their relationship has ended. That would be wrong. That shouldnít be happening. Itís a trap. Donít fall for it.

Youíve started dating your special someone and you recently learned that they love sports, rap music, and to party. You naturally assume that you have to change your interests from hating sports to loving sports, country music to rap, and a conservative party goer to a hardcore partier. You do NOT need to do this. You do not need to change yourself to please the one that youíre dating. Itís absurd. Be yourself. Youíre fine the way you are.

Now, enough with advice, weíre moving on to more important things. Valentineís Day is the day that you are not allowed to forget, just like your anniversaries. Itís another day in the year that youíre supposed to show how much you love one another. Show it through something special, or, if youíre traditional, a rose and chocolate would be fine. Just make it special, thatís all that your significant other is asking for.

I want to wish all the couples a happy Valentineís Day and a big good luck with their relationship. Good luck.

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